Humans do this all the time, are humans pillows? Do we treat our bodies like we treat our pillows? Are people walking around looking the part and feeling like an absolute turd?
A couple of weeks ago we moved into a new house and of course, Jess wanted to buy new ‘things’ for the house.
One of those new things being pillows for our living room. We have the same sofa but I mean we have gone from white walls to cream walls so you can see why we needed new pillows. (I can’t but emoji’s on emails but I hope you can picture the face I’m pulling)
Jess said we need new pillows, I said we don’t need new pillows, so we clearly went to buy new pillows.
As we were walking around the shop, I was picking up amazingly comfy pillows, I was performing
- Sleep tests
- Between the leg squeezes
- Backrests comfort
- Armchair comfort
- Is it easy wipeable when I inevitably spill something?
As I showed Jess my choices, she looked at me like I’d farted in her milk. The face of disgust. They are awful. My heart was ripped out.
We had a look at her choice, she was telling me about how nice it looked, fancy bits hanging from it, contrasting pallets with our other pillows (Which is important, I mean of course it is, it’s a pillow, it needs friends…)
I started to perform my tests.
- Felt like a pillow from Alcatraz
- Felt like I was spooning a milk tray
- This thing was so hard it would kick you off the sofa
- Arm test = Shit
- Water would stain it.
Jess “It’s not all about the comfort you know, it has to look good”
Well well well, I am triggered at this point, but after we brought the terrible pillows (Of course we did) and my emotions settled I started to think.
Humans do this all the time, are humans pillows? Do we treat our bodies like we treat our pillows? Are people walking around looking the part and feeling like an absolute turd?
Yes, yes people are. People are walking around way leaner than they need to/should be in order to impress others when inside they are unhappy, unhealthy and performing like shit.
Aesthetics does not directly equal performance.
Aesthetics does not directly equal health.
Aesthetics will not directly make you happy.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to look better, hey I make a living out of it BUT there is much more to a story about creating a happy and healthy human for the future.
I have dieted humans down to very low body fats in the past because they wanted to push and see where they can take their bodies. It’s self experimental but possibly the wrong move. I have also done it myself.
When I was at my leanest, I was under-eating massively, I felt depleted, my stress was through the roof, my sex drive was low, my performance was the worst it has been, my appetite was terrible, I was sleeping poorly but hey I looked good!
NOT WORTH IT.
But at the time because it was a process, I felt everything was fine. Everything felt normal and I didn’t know what was happening physically and mentally.
It’s very easy to think how you are feeling now is ‘normal’. A lot of the time, it is not.
Some women are walking around without their menstrual cycle for months maybe even years to have a photo shoot with a 6 pack so they can post on Instagram.
Where have we gone wrong in society that people throw away their health to push the body to an extreme to make other people happy!
Remember health is more than physical, it is more than the gym, it is more than food. When we work with clients we look at all parts of their health.
- Physical
- Emotional
- Social
- Intellectual
- Psychological
- Economical
In closing what I am trying to say is, don’t sacrifice your happiness in order to look the way you think will bring you happiness.
